The Resiliency - It is Hard to do but Worth the Effort

Resiliency refer to the ability to:

• cope well with high levels of ongoing disruptive change
• sustain good health and energy when under constant pressure
• bounce back easily from setbacks
• overcome adversities
• change to a new way of working and living when an old way no longer possible
• do all this without acting in dysfunctional or harmful ways.

When resilient people have their lives distrupted they handled their feelings in healthy ways. They allow themselves to feel grief, sad, anger, loss and confusion when hurt and distressed, but they don't let it become a permanent feeling state. An unexpected outcome is that they not only heal, they often bounce back stronger than before. This is why resilient people usually handle major difficulties and disaster easier than other. They rebuild their distrupted lives in a new way that works for them, and the struggle to overcome adversity develops new strengths in them.

Resilience is more important than ever in today's world. The volatile and chaotic period we are going through will not end soon. To sustain a good life for yourself and your family, you must be much more resilient than people had to be in the past. People with resiliency skills have a significant advantage over those who feel helpless or react like victims.

Resiliency is an essential skills in every job sector such as professional services; doctors, lawyers and etc, especially during times of turmoil. It is important to understand that when we are hit with life-distrupting events, we will never be the same again. We either cope or we crumble; We become better or bitter; we emerge stronger or weaker. It is up to us how we want to take it either in a positive way or in a negative way. We have to remember that it is not the strongest people will survive, it is not the most intelligence people will survive, but it is the people who are responsive to change will survive.

reference

1. Al Siebert (2005). The Resiliency Advantages: Master Change, Thrive Under Pressure, and Bounce Back From Setbacks. San Francisco, Berrett-Koehler Publisher INC.

Thrive Under Pressure

How do we respond to extreme stress and pressure? How do we respond to difficult moment? We react to the life's setbacks in many different ways. Some emotionally explode. We become enraged and flail around. We have emotional tantrums in which we may want to hurt someone. A few of us become physically violent.

Some of us do the opposite. We implode. We go numb. We feel so helpless and overwhelmed we can't even try to cope with what has happened.

Some of us potray ourselves as victims. We blame others for ruining our lives. We spiral downward, mired in unhappy thoughts and feelings. "This isn't fair," we complain over and over. "Look at what they've done to me now."

Then, there is another group, the people who get through their distress, orient quickly to the new reality, and cope with immediate challenges. They bounce back and often spiral upward, stronger and better than before. In the workplace, they convert what could be a major career difficulties into finding an even better career achievement and growth.

Highly resilient people are flexible, adapt to a new circumstances quickly, and thrive in constant change. Most importantly, they expect to bounce back and feel confident they will. They have a knack for creating good luck out of circumstance that many others see as bad luck.

In the past, individuals had to learn how to become resilient on their own. Now the new science of resiliency psychology can show us how to become quickly and easily resilient in a way that fits our world. Research into coping, optimism, hardiness, stress-resistance, post-traumatic growth, creativity, emotional intelligence, and the survivor personality has been identified as the main attributes of resiliency. We can learn how to use knowledge gained from the latest psychology research to develop our unique way of being resilient. Resilient people are the people who can thrive under pressure.

reference

1. Al Siebert (2005). The Resiliency Advantages: Master Change, Thrive Under Pressure, and Bounce Back From Setbacks. San Francisco, Berrett-Koehler Publisher INC.

Financial Intelligence

It was very uncommon for medical schools teach their medical students how to manage their money once they get some from their work as doctors in the future. Do our medical students ready and competence enough to manage their income? Can financial intelligence be taught and help them to be better doctors in the future? Why is so important for medical students to be financially competence? Does it relevance to medical students? Why i'm so concerned about this because I believe that by being financially competence, it promotes well-being of future medical doctors (this is another skill that we medical teachers have to look for). How does it promotes well-being of future doctors? The answer is very straight forward, everyone on the earth need money, thus, by managing your money intelligently you can minimise your money lost and you will maximize profits from your income. In other hand, if you are financially intelligence then you can let your money work for you and they generate extra income to your pocket. While you are treating patients your money generating income to your bank account. Does it sound interesting! I believe if doctors have enough money to support their family and themselves, they will treat patients full-heartedly without worrying about money. However, now it is not like that, it is another way around, perhap that is the reason why doctor are stressed, demotivated and not treating their patients well. May be one of the ways to overcome this problem is to teach our medical students about financial intelligence during their medical training. Hopefully with it we can produce better future doctors, not only they have good clinical skills but they are also know how to manage their money intelligently. Let's think about this together. If it is useful and feasible why don't we try it out and let see what is the students feedback about it.

Outcomes of Emotional Quotient

Studies concerning EQ have been reported from Asia, Australia, Europe, the Middle East, and North America. Although they are vary widely in their quality, they include a number of individually well-done and convincing demonstrations of the predictive power of EQ. Accumulating findings suggest EQ may predict important outcomes in several areas as below:

1. Better relations for children. Among children and adolescents, EQ positively correlates with good social relation and negatively correlate with correlates with social deviance, measure both in and out of school as reported by children themselves, their family members and their teachers.

2. Better social relations for adult. Among adults, higher EQ leads to greater self-perception of social competence and less use of destructive interpersonal strategies.

3. High EQ individuals are perceived more positively by others. Others perceive high EQ individuals as more pleasant to be around, more empathic, and more socially adroit than those low in EQ.

4. Better family and intimate relationships. EQ is correlated to some aspects of family and intimate relationships as reported by self and others.

5. Better academic achievement. EQ is correlated with higher academic achievement as reported by teachers, but generally not with higher grades once IQ is taken into account.

6. Better social relation during work. EQ is correlated with more positive performance outcomes and negotiation outcomes in the laboratory, and also with more success at work, according to some preliminary research.

7. Better psychological well being. EQ is correlated with greater life satisfaction and self-esteem and lower rating of depression. It also is correlated with fewer negative physical and behaviour.

EQ, validly measured, is a predictor of significant outcomes across diverse samples in a number of real world domains. It predicts social relations, workplace performance, and mental and physical well-being.


Reference:

1. Mayer J.D. , Roberts R.D. & Barsade S.G. (in press). Emerging Research In Emotional Intelligence, Annual Review of Psychology, 59.

Spiritual Quotient (SQ)

SQ (based on the brain's third neural system, the synchrounous neural oscillations that unify data across the whole brain) offer us a viable tertiary process for the first time. This process unifies, integrates and has potential to transform material arising from the IQ and EQ. It facilitates a dialogue between reason and emotion, between mind and body. It provides a fulcrum for growth and tranformation for a sustainability tommorow. It provides the self with an active, unifying, meaning-giving centre.

SQ is an internal and inner wisdom, innate ability of the human brain and psyche, drawing its deepest resources from the heart of the universe itself. SQ is the soul's intelligence. It is the intelligence with which we heal ourselves and with which we make ourselves whole. SQ is the intelligence that rest in the deep part of the self that is connected to wisdom from beyond the IQ, or concious mind, it is the intelligence with which we are not only recognize existing values, but with which we creatively discover new values. SQ has 'wired' us to become people we are and gives us potential for further 'rewiring' - for growth and transformation, for further evolution of our human potential. SQ is our compass 'at the edge'. 'The edge' is the border between order and chaos, between knowing comfortably what we are about and being totally lost. It is the place where we can be at our most creative. SQ, our deep, intuitive sense of meaning and value, is our guide 'at the edge'. SQ is our conscience, it take us to understanding of who we are and what things mean to us, and how these give others and their meaning a place in our own world.

Realizing the important of SQ, future medical doctors should take some of their time to learn how to nurture and develop their SQ properly. With appropriate level of SQ they will be better and good doctors. If we fail to develop our SQ, actually we plan to ruin ourselves. Think about it and let us transforming ourselves into a sustainable tommorow.

Reference

1. Danah Zohar & Ian Marshall (2000). SQ: Connecting With Our Spiritual Intelligence, Bloombury, New York.